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  When J was 4 years old and after 2 nd child's birth, she was becoming more attention sicker, we started one-to-one piano lesson so at least for one hour she will be engaging with music and it will help her in her emotions after 2 nd child in home. However, she cried before every single lesson. After few months we decided to leave piano classes as she was not enjoying. After 3 years again I started her piano lessons with singing thinking music is a good hobby and she can learn from where her friends are learning. It was zoom classes, so she enjoyed for couple of lessons but then she just started crying and arguing for not interested into music. We tried our level best to help her to be resilient, but she was so strong will and said, she is much interested into craft and paintings only. We thought to respect her own choice of interests and left music classes again. But now, her good friend is playing piano and he taught her basic notes in a way, she said she wants to learn fr

When someone misbehave in an emotional conflict.

  When someone misbehave in an emotional conflict. First of all understand why do we misbehave? We all misbehave at some point of time. less or more is not a questions but we should try and understand our pattern about why and when do we misbehave? 1. emotional pain => root cause is any form of negative feeling (fear, jealousy, sadness, loneliness,  2. when another person is not getting or doing as per our expectations. our reactions are: anger, frustration or anxiety. Think, How do we feel if someone gives back anger, frustration or anxiety when we are already in emotional pain? Now let's check your own life. go to your childhood's special memories lanes. (no matter how miserable your childhood, there must be few special memories) When being a child, you made a mistake or misbehaved because of fear, frustration, anger or anxiety. Later your realized it was your fault. Later you felt scared, you cried, you felt guilt but then adult in your house/school/neighbours responde