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 Inspired from last year SEWA contribution by doing Gardening with me, this year Jina wanted to reach the same amount or more (because of house shifting, we could not start gardening earlier). So we thought of conducting an Art workshop Instead. she happily helped so much for conducting Art workshop with me on her Birthday. We were so proud when she kept telling all her friends here, please don’t bring gifts but donate instead to First day Children’s charity. Kids are so innocent and Big heart too I realised that day. They try their level best when they learn to be happy in other’s happiness. That day I realised; she is proudly shifted from ‘Enjoy to Joy’ on her special day. After our Art workshop she asked me about how much we collected this time? I said, £60 approx. She was eager to raise more money and we were waiting for another workshop. She started insisting me again last week when I said we already reached target and can’t accommodate all BG kids at home too. She was not con...

 When we are a child, we fear from dark, we fear from ghost even in our own house. We don’t enter into next room until someone/adult come with us or switch on the light for us. But the same room, same darkness we perceive in a totally different way after few years. We understand and agree, there is nothing to fear about in my house. I am safe to go to next room and switch lights ON by my own. That understanding is right knowledge and that fear from dark or ghost is an Ignorance. Similarly we are afraid of strangers in childhood but when we grow up, we develop the skills, how to introduce to strangers, what details we should share and what not? or how to communicate with someone or know about them more. So in both this scenario, with time, age, understanding and experience we react totally different. Ignorance is like that, we fear something which is actually not there. With right knowledge we react totally different in similar situation, In Ignorance the same situation or ...

 

  Who am I? In front of parents, I am a daughter. In front of siblings, I am a sister. In front of husband, I am a wife, In front of in-laws, I am a daughter-in-law, In front of my kids, I am a mother. In front of my friends, I am their friend. In front of employer, I am an employee. In each role, my thoughts, my response, my actions, and reactions changes. I do change every now and then, as per the person in front of me, Then who am I in real? The version I see in mirror also keep on changing with time, age, and dressing. Then who am I in real? Until I remove all the different layers of different roles I am wearing, how can I reveal who am I in real? Until I become my own best friend and enjoy my own company how can I be best version in each roles? When I detach myself from all the roles including relation with my own, Then what is left is real me? Then I can see, and I can feel something about me is …. I am pure soul, infinite energy, infinite kn...

If there is rain, we put on raincoat or take umbrella.  If hot summar, we protect ourselves from sunburn.  If snowey winter, we put on warm coat. If sunami, we seek help to survive. manage some rescue plan. We adjust with challenge nature throw on us.  Life is simple and easy. wisdom is to know what tools we need when? Seek help from whom and when?  Wisdom is recognise our real problem, work on it's real solution. We do adjust with nature, similarly we have ability to adjust with given situation/challenges.

Yesterday my 4 year old boy asked me 'when will i have another mum?' I said what? he replied, 'you have 3 moms, so when will I have my 2nd mum? 😍 It reminded me my daughter's conversation when she was around 4. She asked me , 'when will I have my cousin mums? She used to think everyone has one real mum and rest all are cousin mums. In photo (with my mum and two mother-in-law (one is Milan's real mum and another one is who used to take care of Milan when he was away from home (Milan/we respect them same as parents) another photo is with my grand mother-in law. we were 3 generations for 10 years. I hardly use words 'my mum or your mum in house'. In my eye, every mother is special and respected. It reflected in my kids conversation too :)

From 20Th March Friday, UK Govt declared all school closed to fight Covoid-19 Pandemic. Generally I enjoy kids company, but this time, self-isolation and not going out is challenging for young kids. all of a sudden their entire routine changed. No School, No Friends, No other Activity Clubs, No Park. What Best I can do in this situation? To maintain peace, positive atmosphere in the house? Neuroscience says, we all wants to see progress, wants to feel above average. Here is a key, Rewards chart. Point system. It should have broader prospect, to make day more joyful. happy, peaceful. we need to tell kids to set a goal. we are good at what we practice. daily gratitude and affirmation practice is essential for healthy mind. In this activity plan, I have covered Academic, Creativity, Play time, Household help, Gardening, Introspection, Behavior, Affirmation, Daily Quote Rewards, Point chart. Since 3 days, It is working so well. seems one of the fantastic efforts I made.

My 7+ year old daughter was a picky eater. When she was 1.5 years, she had a breathing problem in winter. Doctor prescribed her Salbutamol inhaler, most of the time GP was referring she may be Asthematic. I started observing keenly. started all hurb Kaddha in winter or during her cough. We observed that dairy product & sudden climate change was a trigger point for her. We had to give inhaler initially as breathlessness must be treated immediately. but I always tried to make her strong within. wanted to cure her through her diet and breathing exercises. But she is a child. how can i convince her for what food is good for her and what not? Never mind, started from herb, discussed it's important for body, it's natural medicinal property. She started taking interest with affirmative sentences for health care and gradually now she is fine. since 2 years i didn't gave her inhaler. just right diet, breathing exercises and herbs works for her. I remind her, we s...

Milan was explaining to Jina that always make positive affirmations. why are you doubting? Just try with feeling 'yes, I can do it' . Jina argued: I am trying but i feel that i can not do it. Milan was explaining to her, thinking right helps a lot and it is important. she said? How? I am trying that is more important. does it matter what I think? it doesn't. So, I explained, It is something you are making a beautiful art. you are putting your heart and then you pour black color on it (which is your wrong thoughts) So, how the picture will look like even after trying and making nice craft? Your thoughts will either give finishing touch, shine to your art or will make it ugly and black. That black color is thinking 'i can not do it'. even after trying hard, your thoughts will cover your efforts. she understood very well. yes, thinking right helps. How to paint our picture (our life picture is in our hand) what thoughts are we choosing is our choice of colors for ou...

At temple BG Baudhik, was explaining kids, how to think when someone upsets you? When we feel unhappy or upset that is mainly because of our lack of knowledge. cleaning mind is nothing but an habit of Introspect, habit of thinking right. going to light from darkness. Thinking like My ego is giving me pain? My attachment to something is giving me pain? What wrong did I do? Understand the person, understand the situation. that process is like cleaning your mind. Decorate your mind with beautiful memories. bin the upsetting or unhappy moments and be friendly with everyone. It is like when we spill juice accidentally, we clean it immediately. similarly make a habit of cleaning your mind as soon as possible when you realize you are upset or unhappy. Our soul's quality is to be happy, at peace. Some darkness cover our happiness or peace state and we feel upset. Immediate cleaning is possible through introspection. Introspection is is important to keep mind beautiful. To be happy and to ...